Monday, August 02, 2004
Wisdom, from the mouth of...
Hmm.
Someone's written a whole chain of "questions" which are almost too honest.
In their frankness, they resonate with this individual's - and one suspects, many others as well - life.
So, from an unnamed source and reproduced without permission, suffice to say that I didn't write the italicised bits, so with all credit due to someone else :
Never wait for a phone call. They never happen. Except on TV.
It's a bit like watching a kettle boil, except not. Otherwise the phone would be reduced into a foul smelling slag heap.
Actually, I once knew this guy and girl who didn't wait. They just called at random, but well considered moments despite an unreal time difference, and he's not sure 'bout the girl, but he was always surprised and happy to hear her on the line.
So, mumblemumble, point is that they do happen, even off screen. Don't wait for them is good advice though.
Ever notice how the pp who know how to give the best counsel, always seem to be alone.
Finally.
Have you ever noticed how certain really obvious questions that should really be asked are never asked?
This is one of those questions, except it's couched as a statement. Leading to the obvious "Why...alone?"
Is it merely because they're "better observers, always the coach, never the superstar, and all the more cynical for it?" (again, not my words, and mangled in their reproduction)
Possibly. I knew this guy who used to be Uncle Agony once upon a time - initially went through a phase of not handing out advice since he thought it was unethical to intervene in other people's lives... but eventually he too stopped merely listening in silence.
I reckon the answer to why they're always alone is, in the words of another wise woman I once had the pleasure of knowing, they "think too much."
Observation, and (critical) thinking are dangerous tools in the hands of a cynic. It makes people and situations around them predictable - and also makes it ridiculously difficult to take other people seriously (since the majority tend to arrogantly and self-centredly, in their delusions of individual uniqueness, rehash the same old plot devices over, and over again).
It also makes it impossible to ignore the "obvious clues" when the little rodents start jumping ship - especially if you've advised other people in precisely the same situation before. One automatically reaches for the life-vests after learning what danger signs to look out for.
On the flip side, observation and criticial thinking keep cynics' minds turning over a lot quicker than most other peoples'. Whether that's a good thing or not is anyone's guess.
Hmm. How many Aunt Aggies are married (and undivorced), anyhow.
And why do people always want to go back to peple who... well... everyone knows that they logically shouldn't.
sigh. The age old question.
I often wonder the same. Two possible conclusions to be drawn :
1) (said) people are subconscious masochists who secretly, to some degree enjoy pain in the darkest depths of their subconsciousness-es.
2) Stupid cherub with bow and arrow and blindfold really exists...
of course, (primarily) with women, there's
3) disgruntlement, and post-separation jealousy. Men tend to reach that stage prior to separation. heh.
The difference is intuitive, and linguistic.
- I can't believe he's going out with a ____ (insert adjective of choice) like her! She's ____ (adjective) and ____ (adjective) and so much less ____ (adjective) than me!
vs
- You're flirting with him aren't you?!? He's flirting with you isn't he??!?! Why I'll... ____ (insert verb of choice) him till he ____ (verb)s!
Why is it that even though they know all the logical reasons, incompatibility, yadda yadda... but still, no matter what.. it's like the chumbawamba song " I get knocked down, and i get up again..."
Too true.
Too sodding true.
But I like to believe the cycle ends when someone else comes along and knocks you down. Of course that elusive someone else is always invariably even more incompatible / bad for you / psychotically megalomaniacal / related to Tony Blair.
And why is it, that everytime you are convinced that you are over someone, when you are happy and content with your single life, that all you have to do is see/ hear that the person is with someone else, and everything goes to pieces?
"My Best Friend's Wedding".
Who hasn't been there, before?
Dammit. I really want to know. Please comment after this. If I see a relative dearth of comments I might just check myself into the funny farm. Maybe I'll sign up to work there, God knows it's hard getting a job in the NHS.
A question in response (dammit, if I had all the answers I'd be on a bookcover somewhere, and more importantly, on a yacht somewhere in australia with a five million dollar house with a verandah opening onto a beach) - is it latent leftover emotion that never settled properly but just hid under the floorboards, or is it plain and simple jealousy?
whatever it is, it does hurt bad.
hot damn, I think my Y chromosome just said something. yay me.
I also don't understand why, when you are feeling really sad, you know, that aching sadness people get... it hurts so bad that it feels like you're wailing inwardly... well.. i don't understand why, of all times, your heart tends to beat faster, and stronger. I always think that the heart slowing, or even stopping, is more fitting. Afterall, it feels like your heart doesn't want to go on anymore. And yet, there it goes, strong and steadfast. Even steadier then before.. as if rubbing it in your face...
technically, the answer to that is sympathetic innervation and overdrive. You see, there are these nervous pathwa... nevermind.
Why is it that somehow, the people that are the worst for us, we tend to love the most??
Because ultimately, at the end of the day, we're all fools in the great game of life.
That's probably the best answer I can come up with. Anything else would be unbearable, condescending, and patronising.
Someone's written a whole chain of "questions" which are almost too honest.
In their frankness, they resonate with this individual's - and one suspects, many others as well - life.
So, from an unnamed source and reproduced without permission, suffice to say that I didn't write the italicised bits, so with all credit due to someone else :
Never wait for a phone call. They never happen. Except on TV.
It's a bit like watching a kettle boil, except not. Otherwise the phone would be reduced into a foul smelling slag heap.
Actually, I once knew this guy and girl who didn't wait. They just called at random, but well considered moments despite an unreal time difference, and he's not sure 'bout the girl, but he was always surprised and happy to hear her on the line.
So, mumblemumble, point is that they do happen, even off screen. Don't wait for them is good advice though.
Ever notice how the pp who know how to give the best counsel, always seem to be alone.
Finally.
Have you ever noticed how certain really obvious questions that should really be asked are never asked?
This is one of those questions, except it's couched as a statement. Leading to the obvious "Why...alone?"
Is it merely because they're "better observers, always the coach, never the superstar, and all the more cynical for it?" (again, not my words, and mangled in their reproduction)
Possibly. I knew this guy who used to be Uncle Agony once upon a time - initially went through a phase of not handing out advice since he thought it was unethical to intervene in other people's lives... but eventually he too stopped merely listening in silence.
I reckon the answer to why they're always alone is, in the words of another wise woman I once had the pleasure of knowing, they "think too much."
Observation, and (critical) thinking are dangerous tools in the hands of a cynic. It makes people and situations around them predictable - and also makes it ridiculously difficult to take other people seriously (since the majority tend to arrogantly and self-centredly, in their delusions of individual uniqueness, rehash the same old plot devices over, and over again).
It also makes it impossible to ignore the "obvious clues" when the little rodents start jumping ship - especially if you've advised other people in precisely the same situation before. One automatically reaches for the life-vests after learning what danger signs to look out for.
On the flip side, observation and criticial thinking keep cynics' minds turning over a lot quicker than most other peoples'. Whether that's a good thing or not is anyone's guess.
Hmm. How many Aunt Aggies are married (and undivorced), anyhow.
And why do people always want to go back to peple who... well... everyone knows that they logically shouldn't.
sigh. The age old question.
I often wonder the same. Two possible conclusions to be drawn :
1) (said) people are subconscious masochists who secretly, to some degree enjoy pain in the darkest depths of their subconsciousness-es.
2) Stupid cherub with bow and arrow and blindfold really exists...
of course, (primarily) with women, there's
3) disgruntlement, and post-separation jealousy. Men tend to reach that stage prior to separation. heh.
The difference is intuitive, and linguistic.
- I can't believe he's going out with a ____ (insert adjective of choice) like her! She's ____ (adjective) and ____ (adjective) and so much less ____ (adjective) than me!
vs
- You're flirting with him aren't you?!? He's flirting with you isn't he??!?! Why I'll... ____ (insert verb of choice) him till he ____ (verb)s!
Why is it that even though they know all the logical reasons, incompatibility, yadda yadda... but still, no matter what.. it's like the chumbawamba song " I get knocked down, and i get up again..."
Too true.
Too sodding true.
But I like to believe the cycle ends when someone else comes along and knocks you down. Of course that elusive someone else is always invariably even more incompatible / bad for you / psychotically megalomaniacal / related to Tony Blair.
And why is it, that everytime you are convinced that you are over someone, when you are happy and content with your single life, that all you have to do is see/ hear that the person is with someone else, and everything goes to pieces?
"My Best Friend's Wedding".
Who hasn't been there, before?
Dammit. I really want to know. Please comment after this. If I see a relative dearth of comments I might just check myself into the funny farm. Maybe I'll sign up to work there, God knows it's hard getting a job in the NHS.
A question in response (dammit, if I had all the answers I'd be on a bookcover somewhere, and more importantly, on a yacht somewhere in australia with a five million dollar house with a verandah opening onto a beach) - is it latent leftover emotion that never settled properly but just hid under the floorboards, or is it plain and simple jealousy?
whatever it is, it does hurt bad.
hot damn, I think my Y chromosome just said something. yay me.
I also don't understand why, when you are feeling really sad, you know, that aching sadness people get... it hurts so bad that it feels like you're wailing inwardly... well.. i don't understand why, of all times, your heart tends to beat faster, and stronger. I always think that the heart slowing, or even stopping, is more fitting. Afterall, it feels like your heart doesn't want to go on anymore. And yet, there it goes, strong and steadfast. Even steadier then before.. as if rubbing it in your face...
technically, the answer to that is sympathetic innervation and overdrive. You see, there are these nervous pathwa... nevermind.
Why is it that somehow, the people that are the worst for us, we tend to love the most??
Because ultimately, at the end of the day, we're all fools in the great game of life.
That's probably the best answer I can come up with. Anything else would be unbearable, condescending, and patronising.
